New Ways to Happiness with Strengths

I have came across this interesting article about creating happiness with strengths. Here are my top 3 strengths and I am going to apply them in my daily life.

Appreciation of Beauty & Excellence:

  1. Go outside and stand still in a beautiful environment for 20 minutes.
  2. Listen to a song or piece of music that is viewed as extraordinary; allow yourself to marvel at the talent that went into producing it.

Kindness:

  1. Put coins in someone’s parking meter that has run out of money.
  2. Stop by a hospital or nursing home and offer to visit with someone who is lonely.

Honesty:

  1. Write a poem that expresses an inner truth.
  2. Contact a family member or friend whom you have told a “partial” truth and give them the complete details.

Have you done the VIA survey? You can do it here: https://www.viacharacter.org/www/Character-Strengths-Survey

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Gym membership

I’ve been pretty excited to start my gym membership tomorrow after my virgin trip to Virgin Active last weekend.

I like the entire cheery mood exuded in Virgin Active coupled with the lesser crowd as compared to Fitness First.

As I was comparing my options between Virgin Active and Fitness First, the sales consultant of Fitness First went through with me the rates of the fitness club and she joked that I don’t like commitment of a long term relationship with the gym when I asked for a shorter term package.

I went for the trial class at Fitness First today which was the Body Combat today. It was really fun but also very tiring on the thighs as we worked on the thigh muscles today with those exercises. The sweat out session was really satisfying and you get a sense of achievement after that.

I think my motivation of going to the gym comes from my love of food and of course the ultimate aim which is to lose weight. Let’s keep the fingers crossed on my gym journey. 💪

Emotional health in the job

I was having an evening walk with a friend who’s feeling unstable in her movements. It could be work stress or it could be hormonal issues with woman, friends around my age are feeling the toil on their bodies either with biles, giddiness, migrane. With these ailments in place, how could one be happily enjoy her life?

Someone used to comment to me, the occupation that you chose when you were young could be driven by circumstances, not your real passion or purpose. But who can really tell, what’s our real purpose especially with so much disruption we faced in the technological times and our favourite buzzword, Change.

As we advanced the career ladder, we seem to slowly give way to our passion. So what if we have a trade off, don’t advance the ladder and retain our passion of working. We could do that when we don’t have increasing financial commitments in the face of inflation. Remaining status quo is not a bad thing to have after all. Progress could come in the form of the expertise gained in doing the same job over and over again. Boredom would not enter especially if we are doing it in the name of passion. It could be peer pressure when you see people around you, advancing their career, whereas you are still at the same old level that you were years ago. No wonder people nowadays are losing passion in their jobs.

Mind and body are all linked as one. If we don’t feel good, we can’t be well. If one feels lifeless in his/her job, then their emotional health could not be anything better. It’s important to take care of our emotions so as to take care of our physical health. After all, if you have gotten the best of health, you could then have the mood and ability to enjoy the wealth in your life.

La la land – Post movie review 

After watching the movie, La La Land, it keeps me thinking of the ending. Not satisfied, totally not satisfied with the ending. 

It ends off with a flashback of another possible ending with a different choice made by Seb. That alternative ending is not good either, satisfies Mia but not Seb. Why can’t they think more and work out another possible ending that satisfies both leads?

It kept me thinking of the ending that one would have, given the choices they made. No one can tell the future but I believe if the faith remains for the desire (dream whatever), no matter how life turns up, it will still end up at the same destination. It may take a longer time but if the northern star (dream) remains in the sky and we kept looking up in the sky, we will find the way out from the confusing jungle of life. 

Chinese has a proverb – 两全其美, meaning both sides are well covered. I still believe it’s possible for life to be well covered. Be patient. Patience doesn’t mean doing nothing but keep doing because better things will come your way. Keep looking up to the northern star in your sky. 

Meng Zi famous quote – tenacity

孟子曰:“天将降大任于是人也,必先苦其心志,劳其筋骨,饿其体肤,空乏其身行拂乱其所为,所以动心忍性,曾益其所不能。”(《孟子·告子下》)  〔译文〕孟子说:“上天将要把重大的任务降到这个人身上,一定先苦恼他的心志,劳累他的筋骨,饿乏他的身体,穷困他的身子,他的每一行为总是不能称心如愿。这样,便可以震动他的心意,坚韧他的性情,增强他的能力,方能完成大任。”

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When one is about to be bestowed with heavy responsibilities, he will be put through tough tests to determine his will, exhaust his physical strength and make him go through poverty such that all he does will not be what he desired. In this way, this will shaken up his will, toughen his character, strengthen his ability in order to accomplish the big Mission. 

Courage to act upon feelings 

How was your day today?

Are there times when you wonder how come things suddenly fall into place in the occasions you didn’t expect them to be?

I had that experience today. I was dragging my lethargic body out to work today and the whole day was in a daze. 2 meetings fell at the same time, yet thankfully, I managed to reschedule one. 

I was working in a cold and distant environment where people seldom interact other than work, otherwise they operate in cliches just like your high school (I know it’s childish yet it’s happening to working adults).

It took a meeting for another person to agree with what I said, so that my team could realise about the things they ignored because they were so mighty up there. Oh well, my words carry no credibility that’s why. 

In any case, I’m glad that someone decided to take action so that we can move forward. I don’t mind being the bad guy in saying the unpopular truth because I know deep down, if I’m not going to say these, my business competitors are going to say it and take advantage of it. Even if it costs my unpopularity (and eventually my job), I would rather say it out. 

May all the real people out there decide to do something about what they see instead of keeping it to themselves wishing it would go away on its own because it won’t.


 

Bangkok shopping trip Nov 3-7

It’s time to start counting what went right in my day again (good for emotional health).

Today what went well are:

– Shopped in Chatuchak the entire day without stopping except the 5min rest for the coconut ice-cream. I am impressed with my shopping stamina. 

– Explored Chatuchak deeper this time and saw a different section, discovering more fashion items. 

– Not seeking to achieve any to-do lists by not forcing myself to wake up early and go with what had been planned. 

Today what went well:

– I had a good rest upon touching down. Felt so refreshed and well-rested. 

– I touched down safely from the flight. 

– I spent my money just right on the shopping, food, relaxation etc.