Emotional health in the job

I was having an evening walk with a friend who’s feeling unstable in her movements. It could be work stress or it could be hormonal issues with woman, friends around my age are feeling the toil on their bodies either with biles, giddiness, migrane. With these ailments in place, how could one be happily enjoy her life?

Someone used to comment to me, the occupation that you chose when you were young could be driven by circumstances, not your real passion or purpose. But who can really tell, what’s our real purpose especially with so much disruption we faced in the technological times and our favourite buzzword, Change.

As we advanced the career ladder, we seem to slowly give way to our passion. So what if we have a trade off, don’t advance the ladder and retain our passion of working. We could do that when we don’t have increasing financial commitments in the face of inflation. Remaining status quo is not a bad thing to have after all. Progress could come in the form of the expertise gained in doing the same job over and over again. Boredom would not enter especially if we are doing it in the name of passion. It could be peer pressure when you see people around you, advancing their career, whereas you are still at the same old level that you were years ago. No wonder people nowadays are losing passion in their jobs.

Mind and body are all linked as one. If we don’t feel good, we can’t be well. If one feels lifeless in his/her job, then their emotional health could not be anything better. It’s important to take care of our emotions so as to take care of our physical health. After all, if you have gotten the best of health, you could then have the mood and ability to enjoy the wealth in your life.

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La la land – Post movie review 

After watching the movie, La La Land, it keeps me thinking of the ending. Not satisfied, totally not satisfied with the ending. 

It ends off with a flashback of another possible ending with a different choice made by Seb. That alternative ending is not good either, satisfies Mia but not Seb. Why can’t they think more and work out another possible ending that satisfies both leads?

It kept me thinking of the ending that one would have, given the choices they made. No one can tell the future but I believe if the faith remains for the desire (dream whatever), no matter how life turns up, it will still end up at the same destination. It may take a longer time but if the northern star (dream) remains in the sky and we kept looking up in the sky, we will find the way out from the confusing jungle of life. 

Chinese has a proverb – 两全其美, meaning both sides are well covered. I still believe it’s possible for life to be well covered. Be patient. Patience doesn’t mean doing nothing but keep doing because better things will come your way. Keep looking up to the northern star in your sky. 

Meng Zi famous quote – tenacity

孟子曰:“天将降大任于是人也,必先苦其心志,劳其筋骨,饿其体肤,空乏其身行拂乱其所为,所以动心忍性,曾益其所不能。”(《孟子·告子下》)  〔译文〕孟子说:“上天将要把重大的任务降到这个人身上,一定先苦恼他的心志,劳累他的筋骨,饿乏他的身体,穷困他的身子,他的每一行为总是不能称心如愿。这样,便可以震动他的心意,坚韧他的性情,增强他的能力,方能完成大任。”

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When one is about to be bestowed with heavy responsibilities, he will be put through tough tests to determine his will, exhaust his physical strength and make him go through poverty such that all he does will not be what he desired. In this way, this will shaken up his will, toughen his character, strengthen his ability in order to accomplish the big Mission. 

Bangkok shopping trip Nov 3-7

It’s time to start counting what went right in my day again (good for emotional health).

Today what went well are:

– Shopped in Chatuchak the entire day without stopping except the 5min rest for the coconut ice-cream. I am impressed with my shopping stamina. 

– Explored Chatuchak deeper this time and saw a different section, discovering more fashion items. 

– Not seeking to achieve any to-do lists by not forcing myself to wake up early and go with what had been planned. 

Today what went well:

– I had a good rest upon touching down. Felt so refreshed and well-rested. 

– I touched down safely from the flight. 

– I spent my money just right on the shopping, food, relaxation etc. 

Fine line in life 

There’s a very fine line lying across life, could you find them?

– Spontaneity vs (calculated) risk-taking

– Living life vs living the right life

– Asking questions vs asking the right questions 

– Doing thing vs doing the right thing 

– Selfish vs self-care 

What’s right and what’s wrong? You may ask. It’s right according to you, that’s the right one. Someone may challenge you, may argue with you. Seeing it positively, if you can hold your stand well and convince others to adopt your right standards, that’s your capability. 

Sense of bliss 

As I was asking myself the question of what I wanted to do if I only left with 6 mths to live, it started off with the emotional thrash-out eg. Quit my job, go travel etc. 

A friend’s departure changed my list. She was just 20. I was shocked to hear she’s left the world. I flipped through her FB and saw the happy memories that she had. A good worthy life she had lived I am sure, even though it’s short. 

Then I came back to my list, I realised they are just tides of escapade. Not really what I want. I yearned for close relationships, self-love and simply the sense of bliss. 

It’s interesting how I observed people with heaps of wealth can be one who can’t feel the sense of bliss despite having the financial power to get what they want. On the other hand, poor people who can’t afford to get lavish houses, may be the one who enjoys this sense of bliss. 

So how do we get this sense of bliss? Had your goals? Yes, have your goals then let go of them and live in the present moment. Put the goals in your mind’s back burner and it seems too passive to you, schedule them as one habit in your life, BUT the key is still to let go of them and live in the present moment. 

I realised the sense of bliss is felt when we slow down, observe and appreciate the art of beauty in life around us. It’s not about chasing things and arriving at goals. It’s appreciating the Now and observing the beauty of it. It has a name, Mindfulness. 

The pot of crabs 

In a pot, the crabs were struggling and fighting each other. Scratching each other, holding back each other just to make sure no one gets up ahead of each other.

In one corner of a pot, there’s one crab which is silently figuring out how to get out of the pot and not fighting with the rest. “What’s the point of fighting when the objective is to get out of the pot?”

Everyday this crab is figuring out how to move out at its own pace. There are days when a few crabs came over to ask and a few crabs that came over to disturb. I want to get out of this pot, it remembers.

Trying numerous times on the attempts to get out, it finally succeed in getting out and while it looked back, it saw a massacre of dead crabs which had fallen in the battle of getting up while the rest of the crabs are still fighting with each other to get to the top.